While at the Oasis on the Hill water park, Clancy and I were talking about the bathroom habits of men versus women. She supposed that women are more paranoid about being unclothed around one another because they’re so much more self-conscious about bodies. {insert quasi-sexist joke about male fantasies of females running around in one another’s company without clothes being squashed here.} She’s right about that second part, though not so much about the first.
Or she may be right about the first, but I’m not willing to posit a guess. What that did get me thinking about is now whether men or women are more private about their bodies in the company of their own gender, but rather that the motives are slightly different. Women sometimes worry that if they undress in front of other women they will be found lacking. Men, on the other hand, are worried about excessive approval or alternately being accused of excessively approving of other unclothed men.
So while women worry that someone will say or think “Look at the fatty hips and stomach on that girl” men are worried that some dude is going to say “Dude, quit oogling at my love handles and pot belly you fag.”
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This reminds me of a Roissy post.
At my gym, there is a row of five shower heads against a wall, and then three showers that are seperated by individual curtains. Those curtains are closed only half the time, and they are call the “Shy Guy Showers”. Men, in my experience, once they get past the shy, ackward, worried-if-someone-thinks-I’m-gay stage, have little issue with undressing in front of other men. I mean, come on, one of two things will happen. Either a straight guy sees you naked and does nothing, or a gay guy sees you naked, and does nothing. The women’s showers, or so I’ve been told, are all individual curtained stalls. So… looks like the stereotype holds true.
That pretty much sums it up for me. I went to a naked spa with all women once and I was really uncomfortable, even though most of them were older and flabbier than me. I don’t feel as self-conscious with Ted, though.
What I want to know is what was Ted doing at the naked spa with you? 😉